Not everyone deals with anxiety the exact same way. There are many different ways anxiety can be dealt with. When you’re in a situation when you start to feel anxious or overwhelmed, you need to step away from the situation and do whatever it is you need to do at the time.
I have several things that calm me down. This includes:
- Demi’s music or videos
- My blanket I got made of the picture of Demi and I
- A friend’s touch (hug, cuddle, hold hands, even holding her/his arm etc.)
- Just being near a good friend
- Texting someone my worries
- Just leaving the situation and going for a walk
But these things don’t apply to everyone. Everybody handles anxiety differently. I feel better to be near my friends when I’m having anxiety, but I have a friend who would rather be alone. Anxiety is very different for everyone and varies in many different ways.
If you struggle with anxiety, the best thing for you to do is to figure out what is best for you and do it. If you are really panicking and you need to leave class or a get together, do it. If you need to text someone about what’s wrong, do it. If you’re in the middle of class and you need to listen to music to calm down, just do it (except in high school because ya know, strict rules). It does not make you selfish if you are interrupting something, important or not. You shouldn’t stay in a situation if it’s causing you stress and anxiety. If you know there’s a specific way to feel better and calm down, you have every right to do it. The person prohibiting you or making you feel guilty, is the one that’s selfish. Not you.
It is equally important to tell people what you need. All my friends know what makes me feel better. All my teachers know I have anxiety and know that I might need to leave class sometimes. Communication makes things less frustrating for everyone. My friend suffers from anxiety and she likes to be alone when she’s feeling anxious or overwhelmed, and now that I know that, I know how to help her. I let her go off on her own because I know that’s what she needs. It’ll do nothing if I refuse to let go of her, in fact, it’ll probably make it worse. So definitely let people know what you need. They want to help you. They just don’t know how.
Ever since I started to figure out what I need and told people, I feel much better. My anxiety levels aren’t so high. If they do get high, I know what to do. In an situation where i’m having an anxiety attack, I put my needs before others. I have to. That’s how I stay sane and make it through.
Let the people around you know what you need. Figure out what you need to do to calm down, do it, and take a few deep breaths. It’s all going to be okay.