October is National Bullying Prevention Month, so I thought I would address online bullying and trolls, or more specifically how to deal with them.
Whether you’re a celebrity, an influencer, or just an average person who uses social media, you’re most likely going to encounter trolls, an intentionally disruptive person on the internet. If you put yourself out there as much as I do, you’ll encounter more.
So bad news first, bullying doesn’t end in high school. However, hopefully as you become an adult and mature, you’ll be able to tolerate it more and deal with it better.
Be proud that you choose to love, while they choose to hate.
If you spread love and hope on your social media platform, keep doing that and be proud of it. You’re already multiple steps closer to being a better person than him/her.
Let it bother you (if it even does) then just let it go.
Most of the time these comments don’t bother me. I am able to laugh them off. But if it does, I let it and then let it go.
This will feed the trolls and just start a back and forth argument. Nobody has time for that, except of course, the troll. Just ignore it, and hopefully after the first few comments, the person will just get bored and move on. Also, if the platform you get hate comments on allows you to moderate it, like your own website or YouTube, just don’t approve it.
I’ve had a couple of people tell me to approve the comments and write something kind back to them. That way, others can see the thread and reply with something in my defense or just something nice about me. But, I personally just think it’s better to ignore them.
Don’t take it personally.
Many of these comments are actual BS, and most of the time the person never actually believes what they are writing. Once, I got a comment that said “As someone who has dated you, you are ______________.” I had never actually dated anyone prior to that comment.
Listen to your best friend.
Your best friend knows the real you. Therefore, their opinions should be the only ones that matter to you. If your best friend is a good one, they will shower you with kind words, as well as offer constructive criticism when/if needed and be 10x nicer than a troll about it.