Mental Health

Nine Items That Calm me Down

  1. My phone

img_3719I’m no where without my phone. Sometimes people (jokingly) tease me about it. It’s not because I’m addicted or don’t like human contact. I actually love face-to-face interaction.

But there is a lot on this device that calms me down. Games and music distract me from anxious thoughts. Demi Lovato’s lyrics and voice can calm me down after a few songs. Also, my best friend is only one text away if I need to talk to someone.

  1. Anxiety Picture and Affirmation Book

img_3804I made this book about 1-2 months ago. It has pictures of Demi and I, Nick Jonas and I, and my best friend and I. It also has affirmations such as “I don’t have to be strong all the time”, “I should just try my best. That’s all I can do”, “I am strong and brave enough to fight this”, “I can do this”, “Just relax. It’s going to be okay”.

I got the idea to make this when I went to church one day and I got really anxious. I turned my phone on and just stared at the picture of Demi and I. It allowed me to focus on one thing and I eventually calmed down. So I made a book with a bunch of calming things to focus on. It also really helps when I’m waiting for something.

  1. Ativan


When all else fails, I turn to medication. I only use Ativan once in a while because it can become addicting when taking it a lot. It works within minutes by calming the mind and body down.

4. My tattoos

img_3808My two tattoos on my wrist have such positive deep meanings and I just smile when I see them. It also reminds me about what I’ve been through and that I can keep going. I got my semicolon during a really hard time; it tells me if I can get through that, I can get through anything. The heart is Demi’s signature heart and the semicolon is from a movement called Project Semicolon.

The website says, “A semicolon is used when an author could’ve ended a sentence but chose not to. You are the author and the sentence is your life.”

  1. Earphones


As I said before, I love music and it calms me down. So I always carry an extra pair in my bag, along with my main ones, in case they break or get lost. I won’t have to panic as I’ll always have a pair.

  1. Weighted blanket

Research shows that weighted blankets help with anxiety, as well as other disorders like autism. The weight of the blanket makes us feel secure and warm; almost as if someone is hugging us. My aunt made it for me.

  1. My photos of my best friend and Iimg_3805

I have a picture frame of photos of my best friend and I put it on the wall just above my bed. Whenever I’m having a bad night, I just like to look at it. It reminds me that I’m loved. It reminds me of the positive things in life.

  1. My “Demi blanket

img_3790After I met Demi for the first time, I got this blanket made. I wanted something to wrap around me to remember that moment and to remember, even though I can’t see her, she’s always there. I used to carry it with me all the time. Now I only carry it around sometimes to certain appointments and days where I feel really anxious. It has become like a security blanket.

9. My “Demi monkey”

It has the same effect as my blanket. The only difference is I cuddle with it at night. I used to roll my blanket up and hug it at night but then I came up with this idea. It also calms me down because it’s so cozy.

Jessica Victoria
<p>Jessica Victoria, 24, is a writer and advocate for mental health, disability and LGBTQ+. She uses her personal experiences and knowledge to help and educate others.</p>

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