The other day I got a message through this blog’s Facebook page. She had asked me a few questions and kindly gave me permission to write about it for this blog. Her first question was, “Can I ask you how you stay strong in a world that lets you know it’s not OK to be not OK?”
I stay strong by surrounding myself with people who believe it is okay. I also block out the negative people in my life.
It sounds simple but the more I surround myself with my good friends and people who believe in the same things I believe in, I become stronger and happier.
I also stay strong by helping or talking to others who need someone to talk to, or who otherwise lacks the love and support due to the stigma surrounding mental illness. Whenever I help someone in any way, it validates my purpose and helps me keep going, no matter what others tell me.
We all need someone who lets us be honest about who we truly are, someone who says, “hey if you’re not okay, that’s okay.” Being that person for someone, helps me to continue what I do. And having others be that person for me, helps me to continue living during dark times.
Then she asked me, “What if all the people you thought were friends actively tell you they are not your friends and that you don’t matter and dismissed by family?”
I’ve been there before and it’s definitely not easy. But I had to let those people go, even family members. It was the best thing I’ve ever done.
There has been times where I had absolutely no one. It was the worst feeling.
Once my best friend once walked away from me for about a month and a half after we got in a fight. At this point, I had no other friends. It was the worst thing I ever experienced. I was hanging on each day by a piece of thread. The scary part is I didn’t think she was coming back.
But with the help of outside support, I fought. I’m not too sure how I managed but I’m glad I did because my life is pretty great right now. I am helping more people than I ever imagined. She and I became best friends again, and I have more amazing friends who I would otherwise not have met if I gave up.
During that time that my best friend and I weren’t talking, I had to navigate this world alone. It wasn’t easy, but I did learn a lot about myself and I made some changes to better myself.
There might be times where you have to walk alone. But with outside support, you aren’t completely alone. Support is out there, even if it’s not in the people you expected it to be in.